Florence Scovel Shinn said it best when she explained how important it is to “Watch out for the signs of land!” – see The Wisdom of Florence Scovel Shinn for more information, or read below to discover how we are using her wisdom in our lives today. Applying the laws of creative thought to attracting spiritual love.
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I went out on a date recently with a guy that I knew wasn’t the one – but I said “yes” anyway thinking we could have some fun. Actually, I went out with him three times. However, there are definite things about this man that I am not attracted to. I want to get married and have a family. I don’t want to waste my time with someone that I know isn’t the one – but I also want to enjoy my life in the process. I feel guilty for seeing him and then I feel guilty for telling him that I don’t want to see him. I am also frustrated that what I want seems so far away – that sometimes I just say “yes” to keep from being alone. I don’t want to be insensitive and rigid but then I don’t want to be alone either. I’m frustrated and want some answers – or better yet – I want my true soul mate!
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Maybe the real question here is —- Is this co-dependence, the plight of a perfectionist dreamer or are you just human? The answer may be to take a look at all three. First, let’s look at guilt, because when it comes to soaring – guilt is like molasses on your wings – it’ll keep you from flying until you let it go! A friend of mine once said to me, “guilt is optional.” I’ve never forgotten that statement. While there has been a rare occasion where I assess my actions to discover that the option of guilt is justified – I have generally set myself free from the purgatory that habitual, co-dependent type guilt has caused in my past. I simply ask myself – did I make this decision in alignment with my higher values? If the answer is “yes” – then my intentions are to be honest and loving and I do not choose the option of guilt. I pray: “Divine Peace is now established within the hearts of everyone involved and I am grateful that God is at work in this situation, now. I release this in love and I let it go.”
We are not responsible for the feelings or reactions of others, we are only responsible for how we choose to feel and react to others. Second, since time is important to you – let’s not waste any by trying too hard to understand the problem. Instead – let’s focus on solutions and on attracting what you really want. As a creative life coach, that’s my job – to remind my clients that you will NEVER attract what you ideally desire with your attention on “what you don’t want.”
It can be useful to glance at the problem – simply to gain enough insight to derive more of what you are wanting but only long enough to make new decisions and launch new desires. We are radiant beings that draw into our lives – the very things and effects we put our attention upon.
Therefore, if you are a magnet, do you want to magnetize steel or iron fillings? Stephen Covey in 7 Habits of Highly Effective People says “Begin with the end in mind.” This is an important aspect of intentional attraction because the creative mechanism is Teleological. What’s that? Teleology is the study of final causes – especially as it relates to the circumstances and events leading up to the final event. This science indicates that every thing happens not in isolation of each other but were actually caused by the final event. I’m sharing this with you to make a point – every date, every stare, every conversation, every interaction with a potential mate is an opportunity for you to more vividly recognize and determine what you ideally want. Then from this state of increased awareness influence the final event (the right one) to ensure that you are indeed attracting exactly what you desire and nothing less. I have experienced more breakthroughs and seen more personal growth in my clients from this ONE tip – and that is — to joyously appreciate all “the signs of land” along the way. I use this in my workshops frequently.
In Florence Scovel Shinn’s, The Wisdom of Florence Scovel Shinn, she conveys the importance of looking for the “signs of land.” When Christopher Columbus’ crew cried mutiny – he was rescued from the plank by the seagull that sailed over head and by the twigs and timber that floated under toe because if there are birds and plant life – then they must be close to land. Therefore, if you can truly appreciate every interaction as a “sign of land” then you will keep sailing and eventually hit the homeland. The other option is to look at a date, get frustrated that he’s not the one and then jump ship – when just through the fog awaits your ideal mate on the beach with a coconut “frou-frou”- drink in his hand and a smile on his face. The “one” may not be the first, second, third or even tenth rock you hit but if you appreciate the experience then you will continue moving forward instead of backwards. If you don’t appreciate this sign of land as an opportunity then you’ve just aborted the vision by being focused on the negative – instead of the positive. For example, if you get a date with a guy that’s as boring as a boulder and complain, “this isn’t what I want! I’m not attracted to this one at all.” Then in essence you turn your ship around and lose every opportunity to discover – what is it I like about this one? What is it I don’t like – and what is the opposite that I now know I want? What about me might have attracted these qualities in him? What thoughts do I have that may be limiting and be attracting limiting qualities in a mate? And, what do I need to improve in my personality to become more of what I want in a mate and therefore be in harmony with what I want?
Remember – where there are signs of land – there must be land! Stay focused on your desires, be true to your heart and values, be grateful for all your interactions, make decisions that bring you Peace, Joy and greater Vitality and you will absolutely hit your homeland. After all, the soul mate that you desire – desires you!
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Go on an APPRECIATION RAMPAGE and preserve an ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE. Relish the moment and be appreciative of all that you have. Be aware of every opportunity that comes your way and honor where you are on your path. Look at each experience as neither good nor bad, but as an opportunity to learn and grow. Don’t scold yourself when you make a mistake. Develop an affirmative statement, describing your correct performance, in the present tense and allow your light to shine! See through the eyes of love. Choose to live in joy and spread it to all you meet!