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Improve Your Marriage Using the Law of Attraction !

Wednesday, October 28th, 2009

How to Use the Law of Attraction to ReCreate Your Relationship (Even When When There are So Many Differences)

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How can I find harmony and peace with my husband? I am a”Polly Anna”, eternally optimistic and believe in the law of attraction. He is the eternal pessimist and a true “Sarah Burnhart”… What can I do?- C.

 

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With a relationship that is core-attitude incompatible such as a Pollyanna and an Oscar-the-Grouch, the one that understands the power of the mind, is the one that can intentionally create peace and harmony in the relationship.

In other words, the one that is willing to intentionally apply the law of attraction to improve the relationship is the one that will ultimately be the cause of that experience.

Of course, there’s a couple of catches!

When we choose to change or grow our relationship, we must do this by being willing to first, accept the relationship as it is; without exception and without an attachment to the change we desire. I’ll explain why this is true, shortly.

Second, it’s important to remember that there’s always a price and a pay-off to every change. When we choose to intentionally change a relationship, we can ultimately attract our ideal relationship (even from within the one we have) but not without change.

Therefore, be open, willing, and prepared for changes. It may not come in the package or form that we originally planned. Remember, there are two creators involved here and therefore compromise, flexibility and growth will be required on both sides. This is true whether both parties are aware of the intentions of the other or not.

Now, getting back to the first catch, you must apply the law of detachment by accepting that your mate may never change and be willing to be at peace with this exactly as it stands, forever.

Making peace with your reality is the art of detachment. Practicing detachment does not mean you are giving up on your desire for a more harmonious relationship.

Quite the contrary, you are giving up on your desire to have your mate be someone they are not. You keep the desire for harmony and that becomes your magnetic beacon.

By focusing on the essence of harmony and calling that into your experience, you literally inspire those around you to act, be, and do things that are in alignment with that harmony. And, you inspire yourself to not be present when this isn’t the case.

You are, through the intentional act of surrendering to what is, exchanging attachment for detachment, resentment for forgiveness and rejection for love.

Therefore, if you want to inspire changes within your relationship, choose to surrender to loving it just the way it is.

Then, begin to put your focus, attention, and intention on the love, harmony, optimism, fun, adventure, connection, passion, etc. that you want to experience at the core of your being.

By imagining that you experience these things within the relationship every day, you create a wave of magnetic energy that ripples through your home. Your loved ones will literally feel inspired to ride that wave and in a boomerang fashion return the love you are sending out, as if they no longer want to present their ‘negative’ face but instead feel compelled to be more harmonious around you.

Recently, a client had a major breakthrough with her relationship with her in-laws. It required a great deal of EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), creative visualization and a willingness to love them exactly as they are.

She used EFT to eliminate her picture of how they are, including her belief that they were disrespectful and indifferent to her needs and that they were and always would be selfish, self-righteous and overbearing. She then used
a great deal of creative visualization to implant into the Infinite Mind what she wanted instead: kind, considerate, respectful, honoring in-laws that she enjoyed and appreciated.

Here’s her miracle email:

“Just wanted to pass along some awesome news!! My husband’s parents returned home from vacation this week and they came to dinner last night at our house. Not only was it really wonderful and comfortable and easy and fun…
Guess who washed their hands before holding the baby?!?! Talk about progress! Woo-hoo!” THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!!” – H.

This email is a miracle because only a few short weeks ago, she would have preferred to never see them again, let alone endure an entire dinner!

She used the power of the law of attraction to literally empower the relationship to have the energy of love, respect, and harmony all on its’ own.

Every relationship experience is caused by our thoughts, emotions and our expectations.

Therefore, to change our relationship experience we must change our thoughts and emotions and expectations of the relationship.

We want to choose whether to use emotional scribbling or emotional sparkle to inspire our ideal relationship from within the one we have.

If we are reacting to what is, then we are using emotional scribbling to draw our relationship masterpiece.

If we are intentional, conscious, and focused on love and acceptance, peace and joy, then we are using emotional sparkle to draw our relationship masterpiece.

In summary, here are the steps:

1) Be willing to love and accept your mate exactly as they are even if they never change.

2) Decide what you want in the relationship and focus on the essence of that desire (peace, love, harmony, beauty, joy, passion, etc.)

3) Begin to give what you want in the relationship. If you want more love, start giving more love. If you want more peace, start being more at peace.

4) Use emotional freedom technique (EFT) or some other forgiveness tool to eliminate the doubts, fears, and resentments from your past in order to free yourself from any self-sabotaging thoughts or expectations.

5) Imagine that you already have the very thing that you want right now from your mate. Practice this vision over and over until it becomes a part of your expectation.

When your love of the reality feels truly fulfilling and your expectation for peace, love, and harmony becomes a knowingness (a firm level of absolute certainty) then your physical world will catch up to your emotional world.

This is when you will open your eyes to the change that has taken place and the materialization of your ideal relationship will be what you see.

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Does the kind of relationship I want exist?

Wednesday, October 28th, 2009

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I’m recently divorced (15 months now) and haven’t been single for 18 years. Yikes! My friends keep trying to set me up with “nice” guys but I’ve had nice and now I want awesome. My ex-husband is a fine man but I want someone who wants to grow with me. I simply want a relationship that stimulates me instead of maintains me. I want a relationship that is exciting, invigorating, evolving and much more. I must be dreaming.is that kind of relationship out there?
-Linda D., Springfield, MO

 

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Beautiful! I compliment you for starting to identify what you want and what you don’t want. Until we make decisions about what we want, we cannot expect to attract it!

Be patient and appreciative of your friend’s efforts, as this will encourage the Creative Mechanism to continue sending you opportunities to meet that ‘awesome’ mate you are wanting. And, of course, it’s important to reassure yourself that just because the ‘nice’ guys you’re meeting aren’t ‘awesome’ yet, doesn’t mean you have to settle for less than you desire.

You ask, “Is that kind of relationship out there?” Absolutely! I am truly blessed to be in a business that allows me the luxury of witnessing the creation of marvelous romances and soul mate rendezvous every day. And, I’m even more blessed to have purposefully and intentionally used the laws of attraction to manifest my honey (that I’m madly in love with!) Having witnessed the possibility from all angles, I know it’s possible for you too.

If you haven’t experienced significant and clear ‘intentional manifesting’ success and you do not have noteworthy examples of others experiencing that success, then it may be a bit more challenging to imagine, to have faith, and to trust in the process and in your inner power of attraction.

Now, for die-hard ‘Law of Attraction’ purists, you may want to ’skip’ the negative explanations of why we don’t get what we want below. Why would I write something and then suggest that it could be skipped?

The reason is we don’t HAVE to know ‘why’ we don’t get what we want – ever, in order to fully employ the law of attraction. All we HAVE to know is what we want and focus upon that. The law of attraction works without fail and when we focus upon, trust, and allow what we desire, we must attract it.

Unfortunately, however, there are certain life experiences (such as divorce, bankruptcy, career transitions, getting older, having a baby, quitting smoking, etc.) that tend to have ‘global consciousness vibrations’ that influence our ability (or inability) to create!

For example, many newly divorced persons who have been cast unexpectedly back into the shark pool of single-fiefdom, feel bitter, afraid, inadequate, confused, lonely and like a failure. Often these global-consciousness feelings can then seep into and influence anyone going through divorce.

Therefore, you may find yourself feeling like you’re going down without a life preserver and there’s nothing in sight that can keep your frustrations and fears from eating you alive! All the while, knowing what you know about conscious living, you may be batty and bewildered about where these negative feelings are coming from!?!
To make matters worse, anything that you observe such as statistics and limitations, will influence your ability to intentionally attract.

For example, you may be observing edicts that forecast the fruitlessness of relationships: divorce rates, permanently single ‘old-maids’ of both sexes, fear of STD’s, psycho stalkers, workplace sexual harassment fears, and the overall consensus that ‘it’s harder now than ever to meet quality, potential mates’.

We haven’t even touched on any unloving thoughts that you may be having about yourself such as, “I’m a failure at relationships”, or “I’m not thin enough, good enough, smart enough, attractive enough and/or successful enough” or “I wouldn’t know how to act on a date”, etc.

From this perspective, allow me to answer the question “Is that kind of relationship out there?”

No. That ‘kind’ of relationship is not going to be available for those who have more of the above thoughts, fears, and beliefs than thoughts of possibility, hope, enthusiasm, forgiveness, and faith.

You may ask, “Is that the Truth?!?! What I want can’t happen for me?!?”

NO – it doesn’t HAVE to be the truth! In fact, every belief or idea that suggests any of the negative realities above is complete hooey!

Your work is to say, “Balderdash! I refuse to buy into that limited reality! I refuse to give even one more second of my attention to ANY idea that suggests I can’t have what I want! I refuse to believe in anything less than, “this is going to be a wonderful new adventure!”

It’s all hogwash! If I may use such obscure profanity! None of this has any effect on your ability to attract your ideal soul mate; who loves you exactly as you are and who wants to meet you as much as you want to meet them!

It is so easy to become consumed with what we observe instead of what we desire. In our family and friend’s intentionally supportive but often-misguided conversations, we often feel the urge to throw in the towel and just forget the dating thing all together. Resist that urge. You can have ALL that you desire. You must however, refuse to succumb to the observations of reality as seen through the eyes of others or through the eyes of your past.

Instead, choose to create and notice the reality of what you want!

In “The Mystic Path to Cosmic Power” by author Vernon Howard, I discovered a life changing quote: “Dare to have no opinions!”

Read that again, “Dare to have no opinions!”

Now, try that on for size! It is an eye-opening, life-changing choice that I constantly aspire to be more in tune with every day. And on the days that I’m conscious enough to achieve this state of mind – I’m amazed at how fabulous and magical life becomes.

Make a decision to begin anew, refreshed, buoyant and eager. Decide right now that you want to attract circumstances and opportunities to see others experiencing what you want. When you see a couple very much in love, exemplifying qualities that you desire, endeavor to appreciate and ideally thrill over their love affair. The more you can summon feelings of happiness for others (admiration and inspiration as opposed to envy, jealousy, or self-doubt) the more rapidly you will attract the same for you. The more you see and believe that this kind of relationship exists, the easier it will become for you to acquire the unwavering faith necessary to attract it into your life.

Secondly, work on eliminating those limiting beliefs! (You can use EFT – emotional freedom technique, NLP – Neuro Linguistics Programming, etc.) I believe in looking at the reasons ‘why’ I don’t have something. Often, I’ll come up with an entire slough of negative thoughts that I wasn’t even aware of until I ask myself, “What might be inside of me that is blocking my goal?” Then, I’ll systematically employ processes to release those doubts and purify my belief. By actively getting my doubts out of the way, I clear the path that allows me to voyage to my desires with greater hopefulness and certainty.

Rest assured, what you want does exist and just for asking the question, you’ve already begun to attract it to you!

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How do I create a better sex life with my partner?

Wednesday, October 28th, 2009

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I’m in a relationship with someone who is so very close to the description of what I’ve always said I wanted. She has so many endearing qualities a “fun, adventuresome, loving, kind, considerate, communicative, mature, independent, a people person, she’s grand and we’re falling in love. We even waited to make love until just recently. Now, I’m feeling my disappointment grow because the sex is…. Well, disappointing! Honestly, I’m not a picky lover; I’m not into a freak scene and I don’t ask anyone to do anything that you couldn’t see in a normal rated R movie. I really love this woman and want to pursue it further. I know there are ways to pull her out of her shell so what can I do to create better sex and not throw in the towel? – T.W., Austin, TX

 

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An understanding of where we are as a society and as the male and female species could afford you many insights right now.

A spiritual, new thought solution to a sexual relationship problem, or a sex and relationship issue is to make peace with where you are first.

Begin where you are – with patience. Then proceed with sensitivity, a willingness to be open, a willingness to express what you want while honoring your partners wants and the willingness to unconditionally embrace and be satisfied with the perfection of the moment. These would be the beginning steps for creating a better anything including a better sex life. If you commit to the above, then you are right “you can create the sex you want from within your current relationship. To do this, you must be willing to grow with and support the relationship by appreciating it while imaging, maintaining and mentally and spiritually pursuing the vision of the ideal love life that you desire. Which, by the way, is the very same desire that your partner (on some level) wants as well – or you could not have attracted each other.

The editors of Andrew Cohen’s magazine, What is Enlightenment? In the Spring/Summer issue of last year wrote, “the fundamental view pervading the contemporary spiritual scene seems to be that sex, long seen as the enemy of the spirit, is actually its ally. This sex-positive view holds that to truly become whole, we must liberate our sexuality from the chains of guilt, shame and repression, and allow it to find full expression as a natural, healthy and even sacred part of life.”

Although, I have my opinions, I’m not a sex therapist, nor am I a psychologist, therefore I will not and can not get into the psychology behind our society’s love/hate relationship with sex. However, I will say that none of the reasons we have for our “fear of intimacy” would have a leg to stand on unless we provide that leg. What I mean by that is the more we pay attention to the very things in our life that are disappointing, the more disappointed we will become and the more we will attract into our experience – that which is disappointing. Additionally, if your new love senses your disappointment, it will be very difficult for her to ever feel anything but disappointed herself. She may not even be able to quite put her finger on it, but she WILL feel it and that disappointment will find a way to express itself. The expression may come through as she feels her self-esteem lowered to the point to where she’s insecure and actually feels too vulnerable to “come out of her shell.” And/or she’ll discover that you don’t provide her with the sexual satisfaction that she needs either.

On the other hand, you can change what you are focused upon and therefore – change what you experience. For example, if you continually and persistently appreciate all that this relationship DOES have to offer – you will notice that little by little the relationship on all levels will automatically blossom. Eventually, you will have established the unconditional acceptance that is necessary to propel the relationship into deeper realms of intimacy. Love making like communicating is a learned process. We do not pop out of puberty with ALL the magnetism of a Don Juan or the confidence of a Mae West. We must explore our intimate desires while teaching our partners and ourselves how to be each other’s special lover, and the act of appreciation and acceptance will set the groundwork for that next level of intimacy and communication.

Be persistent in expressing your unconditional acceptance of where you are while blessing the potential of where you are headed and your point of attraction (and sense of disappointment) will be altered and you will inevitably change your sex life for the better. Claude Pepper, U.S. Congressman is quoted as saying, “Life is like riding a bicycle. You don’t fall off unless you stop pedaling,” and I’ll add to that and say, “if you pedal long enough in the positive direction of your goal – you will most assuredly get there!”

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For example, in Andrew Harvey’s book Return of the Mother, he wrote, “It’s lethal and obscene to keep alive the old patriarchal fear about sexuality. What is needed is for the body to be blessed. Why? Because we’re in it. Why would we be here if we were not meant to love and celebrate our bodies and to find out that sexuality can be the physical grammar of the lovemaking of the soul? When you finally learn how to love and celebrate your body and your sexuality, it’s then that the full miracle of life becomes obvious to you.” Simply gaining an understanding of the many core sexual issues could set you at ease and put you in a better place to create and allow the natural process of change and growth within your relationship.

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Love versus Hormones in Vegas

Wednesday, October 28th, 2009

When the biological clock is ticking, and he doesn’t want a baby, what’s the spiritual, new thought answer?

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I’m dating a guy who is incredible. He’s Spiritual, Gorgeous, Financially Independent, Fun, a Vegetarian, a seasoned Traveler, Educated, etc., etc., etc., – My list has check marks all over it, proving he is a match to what I’ve always wanted. However, I don’t know how I created this – because it’s so important to me – but he doesn’t want children. Actually, he says “I used to not want children but I might change my mind.” Up until now, we have chosen not to be intimate sexually – but we are falling for each other and to put it bluntly — we WANT each other! I know that I want children and I don’t want to enter another relationship knowing it’s a dead end. But he’s so incredible… I keep thinking, if I’m head over heels in love with someone and they feel the same for me – then it’s only natural for the relationship to eventually include offspring. How can I be sure of where he stands and know that I’m not entering this with my eyes Wide Shut! — Love versus Hormones, Las Vegas, NV.

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First: Maintain the vision of you and children without attaching that vision to this man. If you desire children then you need not compromise on your desire, however, if you begin projecting your desire for children onto “this” relationship then you will surely become obsessed with changing his mind or angry at him for not being the one. Either way – you lose what is so wonderful in the moment and any possibility of recognizing the right relationship should it appear or unfold before you.

You are wise to contemplate the view from beneath the sheets – as hormones can camouflage it. For some, the moment great sex between complimentary partners has been achieved it’s time for monogamy, mutual commitment, long-term planning and marriage. As ideal as this may be – it’s irrational to base a marriage on compatible sex. It is possible that he is the one and it is also possible that he is merely a partial example of what’s to come for you. What to do?

Simply choose courtship over sex until you KNOW by his words and actions alone. Let me clarify, I use the word courtship to imply old fashioned, get to know each other first – dating. I am suggesting you cultivate and nurture the relationship before acting on hormonal impulse. Your predicament is understandable. When we attempt to do something against the tide of our emotions, the habits of our past AND the predominant culture – frustration is only natural. The option of going with the flow of the moment, engaging in the passion of the hour and maintaining the “status quo” can be extremely tempting when coupled with the emerging emotions of love.

In the pursuit of one’s dreams, specifically when we are learning the processes of deliberate, intentional manifesting, it’s sometimes easy to fall into the fairy tale vision of our dreams. We tend to expect the Knight in Shining Armor to ride up on his White Stallion and the instant we lay eyes on each other – we will fall instantly, madly, wildly, passionately in love and it’s all white picket fences from here. Okay, the Spiritual Truth is “anything is possible” however, I still have a sock on the ground and accept the reality of something more likely — that a relationship has to be built, brick by brick, layer by layer, thought by thought.

Being a bit practical in my own evolution, I realize that today I still have to cultivate a relationship. I have to be willing to expose myself, be vulnerable, communicate my needs, probe completely into the needs of my mate, take risks, create a safe place for my mate to be themselves, express unconditional acceptance and commit to my highest intentions at all times.

As a rule, I reframe from “advice giving”, as I sincerely believe all is well and whatever you choose will be the right option for you. And, this scenario is no different. You cannot get it wrong. However, you can create situations that cause you to resist your connection to Source and thereby cause you unnecessary pain. If you choose to be sexually intimate, do so in the full knowledge that you are choosing to make a conscious decision to be intimate with someone who does not want children -Period! Do not fool yourself into thinking that you can somehow create such a fabulous romance for him that he indeed will someday change his mind. You cannot create in someone else’s world without their permission and the more you mentally project the thoughts “maybe he’ll change his mind” the more resistance you can build in the relationship.

If you’re thinking, “but, he already said he might change his mind,” acknowledge that as a possibility but completely detach yourself from him changing his mind with you. Be completely grateful for what you’ve experienced thus far, ask for guidance as to how to continue, listen intently to your intuitive knowing and follow your heart. Navigate with your highest intentions and integrity as your compass and whatever you choose will be the perfect experience for you right now. This is a place of awareness and your eyes will be wide open no matter what you decide.

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The Signals are driving me Crazy!!!!

Wednesday, October 28th, 2009

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I am recently divorced and during my separation, I did not date, making a conscious decision not to as I was always working towards reconciling our marriage of 24 years. Now, for nearly 10 months, I’ve noticed a gentleman at church that has also noticed me. Each Sunday morning I find myself looking for him as well as I have noticed him looking for me. The smiles became bigger, glances became definite looks, eventually, I got the courage up to introduce myself. We’ve engaged in brief chats over the months and I decided to invite him to coffee – he said, “I was going to ask you the same thing.” I gave him my business card with both my work and home telephone numbers. That was nearly 8 months ago and to date, he has not called. I would really like to get to know him, but I am uncertain how to or if I should proceed. I think about him almost daily in hope that I might have a message when I get home. Maybe I’m really reaching…– any advice? – Signed, the signals are driving me crazy! – Houston, TX

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DEAR “THE  SIGNALS ARE DRIVING ME CRAZY,”

Anyone who can relate to this – raise your hand! Most of us have been there and there’s something irresistibly irritating about the signals that can put your heart in a flutter, your mind in a spin and your imagination in overdrive. The signals keep your engine revving and your wheels spinning but it’s like treading water – “Great, I won’t drown! But, at this rate – I’m not going to get anywhere anytime soon either.” What do you do – ask him why he hasn’t called? Or give him your card again in case he lost it the first time? Or ask around to find out if he’s seeing someone else? Or wonder and ask him if there’s something about you that is the reason he hasn’t called? Or be patient and continue to mull over when or if he’ll ever call? Or let it go, being grateful and knowing that God has a plan for you and in perfect timing your Divine partner will enter your life and you’ll never have a question as to how to proceed?

If you have any friends that follow “The Rules,” written by Ellen Fein and Sherri Schneider, they would tell you straight out – “If he hasn’t called you then forget him and never ask a man first let alone twice!”

However, if you ask someone who subscribes to the theories in “The Real Rules” written by Barbara DeAngelis, Ph.D, they’d say, “Don’t play games; be yourself; be honest about your feelings and if you like him let him know.”

As you consider your options – what feels right? Not what your mind says is right or rational – but what can you choose that will invoke the feeling of being at ease, positive, confident and at peace with this situation? In the movie “City of Angels” there’s a scene where Nicholas Cage (the Angel, Seth) and Meg Ryan (the surgeon, Maggie) are in a library: (Forgive me if I paraphrase.)

Seth: “You’re a good doctor.”
Maggie: “How do you know?“
Seth: “I can feel it.”
Maggie: “That’s pretty flimsy evidence.”
He takes her hand, has her close her eyes then runs his finger across her palm.
Seth: “What did I just do.“
Maggie: “You touched me.”
Seth: “How do you know?“
Maggie: “I can feel it.”
Seth: “You should trust that. You don’t trust that enough.”

The point is – that your positive/confident feeling about what would be the best course of action for you is always right! Even if it’s not the match to what you think you want. Divine guidance speaks softly but is always in the form of a peaceful sense that “all is well.”For discussion’s sake, let’s say you think, “but I don’t know how I feel – I don’t know what to do.”

Sometimes we get so caught up in the idea of what we think we want that we forget how to interpret feelings or listen to the still small voice within us that would intuitively guide us if we could ever quiet our mind enough to hear what it was saying. If that’s the situation, then you have only one option. Beyond any structured system of behavior there is ALWAYS one sure bet. When you choose to let go and let God (Or the higher power that nourishes your Spirit) take control of a situation – you will always be magnificently and surprisingly rewarded! This is my advice regardless of what else you choose — let go of your attachment to this gentleman having to be or do anything that you think you would like. Let go of the idea that you want something and the frustration of not having received it.

The Law of Detachment is very powerful and will allow you to heal your thoughts/feelings about this situation while still allowing yourself to be open to the future – whatever it may bring. Be grateful for the experience that this interaction has awarded you. Find a way to know and to be grateful that this is exactly what is meant to be and is perfect in and of itself, right now. Then make decisions and begin to focus on what you want in a relationship but let go of it having to BE any particular person.

Synopsis – Let go of the attachment to the outcome, turn the situation over to your higher power and relax into the knowing that the perfect path for your perfect fulfillment is unfolding before you.

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Using the Law of Attraction-Get Pregnant & Have Baby!

Tuesday, October 27th, 2009

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I spoke to someone recently who told me to put my wishes to have a child into the universe and then “let it go”. How does one do this? And, is it not natural to focus on something you want so badly? – Tammy

 

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When a wise friend says, “Just put it out and let it go” what they are really saying is put into practice the law of attraction and the law of detachment simultaneously.

The law of detachment is essential to intentional creation and it’s primarily about instilling your emotional self with absolute certainty and faith.

The law of detachment is taught throughout the bible for example:

“Then the disciples came to Jesus privately and said, ‘Why could we not cast it out?’ He said to them, ‘Because of your little faith. For truly I tell you, if you have faith the size of a mustard seed, you will say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it will move; and nothing will be impossible for you.” -Matthew 17:19-20

Now, a mustard seed may be small but it is absolutely, positively still a mustard seed. When planted it is not going to produce a cherry tree! Thus, faith as small as a mustard seed contains enough faith to warrant the experience of absolute certainty that when you put it out there, that all is well and Divinely Ordered and in Divine Timing all your desires shall be fulfilled, for the highest and best for all parties involved.

Period!

When you ask, “Isn’t it natural to focus on something you want so badly?” the real question isn’t so much whether or not it’s natural to focus on what we want (because it is), the real question I believe you want to know is, “Why would it be bad to focus on what I want?” The answer is that it’s not ‘bad’ to focus on what we want. However, when we want it “so badly” there’s an undertone of fear and doubt preventing faith and certainty. The doubt is actually creating the ’so badly’ experience of the ‘what if it doesn’t happen for me?’ which of course creates ‘it not happening.’

I enjoy finding support for the law of attraction in the bible, so I have another favorite quote that I remember when I find myself doubting:

“But ask in faith, nothing doubting, for the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, driven and tossed by the wind; for the doubter, being double-minded and unstable in every way, must not expect to receive anything from the Lord.” James 1:6-8

Substitute the word Universe for Lord and you have the New Thought message that “when you doubt, you get more to doubt about”.

In this example, what you want is to get pregnant, have a wonderful, healthy pregnancy, a comfortable and even magical delivery and a happy, healthy baby.

From time to time, this desire is accompanied by many extenuating circumstances such as the fear and doubts of one or more of the parents. For example, many will have thoughts such as:

  • What if I’m too old?
  • What if I’m a terrible parent?
  • What if something is wrong with the baby?
  • What if I can’t love this baby?
    What if I can’t support a child or my ‘other-half’ and I don’t stay together?
  • What if there’s something wrong with me (or us) and we weren’t meant to create a family together?
  • What if there’s something physically wrong with me and I’m defective in some way?
  • What if it’s too late?
  • What if I won’t know what to do once I have the child, or what if — there’s so many what if’s.

All of these fears launch creative thoughts into the Universe and are reflected back to us in our experiences. Thus, it can be terribly challenging to hand it over when underneath you feel so afraid (and other negative emotions).

There’s a documented phenomena in medical science known as psychogenic infertility. I often use this example in my seminars because it is documented scientific evidence of the Universal Laws working together.

You’ve heard the stories of couples who want to get pregnant, and they start out trying (you know, the birds-and-the-bees) and nothing happens, nothing happens, nothing happens and six months, a year go by, and they decide to see a fertility specialist. The fertility doctor orders the tests, they begin In Vitro Fertilization processes and every other current medical solution and still nothing; they just can’t get pregnant. After tens of thousands of dollars and even more tears, the doctor says, “There’s nothing more we can do. Have you ever considered adoption?” and, hands them a parting brochure.

The couple goes home, grieve and eventually decide to adopt. “Maybe adopting is what we were supposed to do? Maybe this is what is meant to be for us? Look at how many children in this world don’t have families and how we are going to be helping one of them. Oh my! I’m so excited about this!”

They take their focus off of having a baby ‘this way’ and put their focus upon, having a baby ‘another way’.

They anxiously wait their turn, adopt a beautiful child, and bring the baby home. And, boom! They get pregnant! “It’s a miracle!” Indeed it is, and it’s also known as, psychogenic infertility and the law of attraction and the law of detachment at work.

So, what do you do about the fears and doubts? First, begin to consciously choose to increase your faith, confidence, certainty, and hope intentionally. Talk yourself into feeling better. Look on the bright side and maintain that, “All is well and in Divine Order at ALL Times!”

Another way to ‘talk yourself into it’ is to deepen your understanding of what faith means. For example, read the following quotes and see if you don’t raise your level of ‘faith’ comprehension:

“Faith is to believe what you do not see; the reward of this faith is to see what you believe.”–St. Augustine

“When you have come to the edge of all light that you know, and are about to drop off into the darkness of the unknown, Faith is knowing one of two things will happen: There will be something solid to stand on or You will be taught to fly” – Patrick Overton

“Faith isn’t faith until it’s all you’re holding on to.” – Unknown

“You block your dream when you allow your fear to grow bigger than your faith.” – Mary Manin Morrissey, http://www.lifesoulutions.com

Additionally, here are a few other techniques:

  • EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), if you have a fear or a doubt – eliminate it now with this powerful meridian therapy. If others can do it, so can you!
  • Meditation (a good program is the HoloSync program)
  • Seeking Silence and personal introspection in nature.
  • Read Power vs. Force and use Dr. Hawkin’s Map of Consciousness to transcend the lower level beliefs.
  • Call any religious (secular or non secular) organization that offers prayer support. For example, call the Science of Mind (Religious Science) or Unity prayer hotlines and ask for prayers.

Miracles are a daily affair!

Your work is to launch wonderful, joyful, passionate thoughts about what you desire while maintaining your faith, confidence, and conviction that what you want, is already written.

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Tithe Not Working-Use EFT to release limiting beliefs !

Tuesday, October 27th, 2009

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Regarding Tithing: Is it OK to tithe to individuals?
I am ready to start Tithing more today. My wife and I were going to start committing 5% of our gross income to the homeless. We had already started putting a committed dollar amount of money in our car and every time we would see someone homeless we would pull over and give it to them. I did get an unexpected pay increase and the Tithing would be a significant amount more. My wife works next to a homeless help center and we have access to people in need, do you think it is OK to commit our Tithing to individuals of need or does it have to be to an institution. We have never told them what to do with the money. We just feel it might make them feel better if they can do some things on their own without having to ask for everything. – Please advise. -
John T.

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Hi John,

What a blessing you and your wife are!

Yes, tithe to wherever you feel spiritually fed. If giving to those in need supports you in ‘feeling’ like you are making a difference AND you are completely detached to where/how they spend the money then you are giving with aligned intentions and that’s what counts! Tithing, as it relates to greater abundance, works because it’s showing the Universe that you know that you are unlimited and that your wealth is limitless. When you tithe from an aligned place of confidence, you send forth a vibration of trust, faith, and certainty that resonates with prosperity; you send forth a magnetic beacon that says you KNOW that your source and supply is not the money in your hand that you are giving away but the endless and immediate, never-ending supply of lavish prosperity that comes from your consciousness of the Divine within, as your source and supply.

In Paula Langguth Ryan’s book, “Giving Thanks: The Art of Tithing”. She addresses the issue of ‘charity vs. tithing’ and the confusion around ‘where and when it’s appropriate to tithe’.

She writes, “Whatever name you call the gifts you give freely, cheerfully, joyfully and willingly, keep giving them with grateful thanksgiving and you will find yourself firmly in the flow of abundance.”

We don’t need to make our ‘giving or tithing’ complicated! Simply give to the people, places, or things that support you in expressing the Truth of your Divine Inheritance – that you are an unlimited child of God with unlimited resources and that your source and supply is instant and immediate.

Simultaneously, choose to be mindful and honor your current ‘reality and beliefs’ of financial growth. This means you don’t want to overspend or make purchases on credit cards to display your ‘new belief’. This will most likely only engage the energy of debt, lack and poverty consciousness and that’s the opposite of what you want.

By taking aligned actions that are in balance with both abundant prosperity and your current state of acknowledged reality, you will consistently grow your prosperity consciousness and thereby grow your flow and materialization of abundance.

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How do I work through the boredom of visualization?

Thursday, October 15th, 2009

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Every time I try to manifest, about two or three weeks after I start visualizing, stating affirmations, etc. I start to get really “bored,” and just stop everything all together. And then when I do end up attracting a relationship into my life it is never what I wanted. Well, after having recently discovered your website and being re-inspired by it, I decided to try yet again to manifest another relationship (after having just ended a relationship that was not what I was looking for). Anyway, again after about three weeks, I started to get “bored” with the whole process. This time, however, I realized that this “boredom” could be a form of resistance coming up, and so I have decided to keep going and try to work through this resistance. And I’m pretty sure it is resistance because sometimes I literally just have to force myself to finish the whole visualization process and get to the end of it. I know that deep down what I truly want is a loving relationship. The problem is I don’t really know how to work through all this resistance and was wondering if you could help me.

 

 

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When I lived in Newport Beach, California one of my mastermind partners and dear friend, Jim, gave me a gift that has been an incredible reminder, on many a “bored” occasion. We had been working together as mastermind partners for some time, and he knew my challenges, as I knew his, very well. One of the issues that I was working on at the time was not being able to push through the “boredom” of a project (or relationship) once the initial excitement and idea phase was over. I was happy in the visionary stages, and the initial “what do I want” stage. However, as the newness faded, boredom would cast a shadow on my attempts to fulfill my goals and I would once again, be looking for my next “adrenaline-rush” of a new project. 

 This meant that I was constantly jumping from one thing to the next, whether it was a meditation exercise, a self-help book, a job, a fitness routine, a relationship, a home, or even a passion.     

 It was easy to call me a “jack of all trades, master of none.”   I couldn’t stick with anything once I began to get bored with it. I jumped around life getting a great deal of surface level experience about a great number of things. However, what I had was breadth of experience, not depth of experience. 

Even in my relationships, it was easier for me to get moving once I got bored than it was for me to stick with the relationship long enough to learn, heal, and grow.  My challend was and continues to be, to do what that precious gift inspires me to do.  The gift was a key chain that is engraved with the words:

I focus through Boredom, to my Freedom!  

 I realized this was my goal, after reading Dan Millman’s book, “The Life You Were Born to Live.” My work is to recognize that the greatest freedom, and fulfillment that I will ever realize will come through DEPTH instead of BREADTH, and getting to the other side of boredom through focus and discipline, will give me the FREEDOM that I desire.

 Boredom is indeed a form of resistance. Our work is to do whatever it takes to push through boredom in order to get to the other side. However, pushing through boredom does not mean going against our inner voice, or forcing ourselves to do something in angst, frustration, or apathy. 

 Remember, if you are feeling negative then you will create in the negative. 

If you feel any emotion when visualizing, or affirming such as irritation, annoyance, or an urgency to get it over with, then any work that you do will be from a negative point of attraction and you might as well stop before you begin. 

 Pushing through boredom effectively requires that we find another way to motivate ourselves. It’s important to be creative and choose pathways that support your goal while at the same time maintain a pure level of motivation, enthusiasm, inspiration, and joy when you “do your work.”  

 If you feel that “manifesting” requires methodical discipline, then it’s natural that you’d get bored with the process. Lighten up and make it fun. You want to WANT to do your manifesting work because it’s fun and you feel inspired to do it. You want to look at “boredom” as a challenge. You want to come up with creative ways to inspire yourself to move through this. Attack it; analyze it; assess it; challenge it!   Change your perspective from, “I’m bored with this” to “I’m challenged by this, and I love a good challenge!”

 If you are finding that you are “bored” with the process, then find another way to do the process.

 Affirmations said by rote, and visualizations by the numbers are ineffective. Your creative manifesting potential lies in you ability to coordinate your thinking nature, with your feeling nature in a positive light. Which means, you have to LOVE what you’re doing in order for the LOVE to be returned. You have to feel good about the process, in order to yield a “feel good” result. 

 Here are five ways to lighten it up, get in vibrational harmony with the essence of your goal and make it fun at the same time:

1)       Begin to bless life by appreciating nature, a dragonfly, a distant star, a leaf, or a blade of grass. Breathe in the fall breeze, while gloriously celebrating the wonder of life. Once you feel the awe, speak a single affirmation in a commanding way (1 to 7 times), and release it into the wonder around you.

2)       Play the visualization game with your VCR: Rent movies that are uplifting, or represent what you want. Pop some popcorn, uncork a bottle of your favorite wine or mineral water, and go to town with the remote. Pause, and rewind the movie when a particularly inspiring spot appears and imagine YOU in the movie…lapping up luxury, loving the touch of a partner, enjoying the fruits of an accomplishment, or reveling in the success of being recognized or appreciated.  

3)       Sing your affirmations to your favorite song! Be brave! Have fun recording yourself, laughing, and rocking your world with your “Tina Turner on a manifesting trip” impersonation. 

4)       Create flash cards, filled with magazine clippings, clip-art, digital pictures or even your own original artwork depicting the fulfillment of your goal. This is for YOU, so they can be as fancy or as simple as YOU want. Once the newness of this wears off, start over or play a game with them by putting them in a “creative manifesting” box (also decorated with goal-inspiring images), pick one a day and work up a dreaming-manifesting frenzy!

5)       Create a symbol that is supercharged with your desires. Energize that symbol by imagining light beaming into it, your breath filling it with energy, and your visions, affirmations, ideas, desires, and feelings of joy being molecularly placed into the symbol. When you aren’t feeling inspired to “visualize” in the traditional sense, visualize this symbol and celebrate in the knowledge that IT IS DONE! 

 The Goal is to HAVE FUN, and with this intention in mind, your life will become fun!

One last note: When the intention is to create the feeling of “more of the Presence of God within” and NOT to create the “thing-object-goal” then you will NEVER get bored because the Presence within is such a high-energy attractor that the will to want more of it becomes self-evident, self-motivating and self-sustaining. 

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Manifest Money Fast Using LOA & EFT

Thursday, October 15th, 2009

 

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How do I Manifest Money Immediately? I need to manifest a lot of money fast – What can I do attract money now?

 

 

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When you HAVE to Manifest it NOW, immediately, yesterday even – what do you do?

Use Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) to apply the Law of Detachment, first!

For most of us, whenever we have to manifest something immediately, we almost automatically become anxious, fearful and doubtful.

If you have to manifest something immediately then you are dancing with one foot nailed to the floor! The nail that makes you spin is attachment; the attachment is the ‘fear that immediately isn’t fast enough.’

Since what we put our attention upon expands, the fear actually attracts the opposite of a solution. If we are afraid of ‘not getting the money’ then we don’t get the money. If we are afraid of ‘not having a safe home’ then we get not having a safe home.

It’s important that we recognize our fearful and doubtful thoughts and engage the law of detachment. The law of detachment is the act of employing absolute certainty and pure faith in the belief that our desire is certain and already within our reach.

With the law of attraction and emotional freedom technique (EFT), we can both harness the quantum power of the energy that creates worlds (our positive thoughts) and eliminate the emotional impediments (our negative thoughts/emotions) that block what we really want from manifesting.

In other words, EFT allows us to apply the law of detachment with sincere consistency. With EFT we neutralize our negative emotions and limiting beliefs. When we are neutral with our fears then the dreams and visions that we’ve been sending out to the Universe for years can finally have a safe landing; we can finally prepare the runway to be clear of debris so that our flight can land safely and prosperously!

Think of EFT as the can-opener for your dreams. Before the fabulous invention of the hand-held can-opener, breaching a can of green beans required lots of effort, concentration, a steady hand and a sharp knife.

You would eventually get to the food, but it would require a great deal of forced effort. Cutting and prying off the metal top ensured that you’d be plenty hungry by the time you enjoyed your first bite of sodium-packed vegetables.

Without intentional creation, most of us live our lives with a great deal of forced effort. And, by the time we ‘get the money, the home, the job, the relationship’ we are absolutely ravenous; not to mention exhausted and fearful of having to ‘do it all over again tomorrow.’

By using EFT along with your creative visualization and manifesting exercises you have the ability to set free the positive vibes that have been vacuum sealed inside of you; you set free the potent imaginings that allow you to accept your divinity and harness your Divine powers of creation.

If you are not manifesting what you want fast enough, use EFT to get rid of the doubts and you’re guaranteed to be happier. When you release the negative beliefs, if what you believe you want is in alignment with what you really want most right now, then you can’t help but have it materialize.

How do you use Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) with the Law of Attraction?

Using the situation, “I need to manifest money fast”, we can only assume that there’s a reason that ‘fast’ is important. Therefore, let’s assume that something bad might happen if you don’t get the money fast.

When you want to use EFT to employ the law of detachment, figure out what you’re attached to; continue to probe your thoughts until you identify what you’re afraid of and what negative beliefs cause you distress.

With the desire “How do I manifest money fast?” you can uncover your specific fears by asking yourself ‘fear- prompting’ questions.

For example,

If I don’t manifest enough money, what’s the worst thin that I’m afraid of will happen?

If I never get the money I need, what will happen?

If I can’t work hard enough what will happen?

If I can’t borrow the money what will happen?

If I don’t find a way to get the money, what is the worst thing that this says about me?

If I don’t find a way to get the money, what does this remind me of?

If I don’t manifest the money quickly, what will others say about me?

As law of attraction students, we’ve been taught NOT to look at the negative. However, with EFT, we want to acknowledge and shine the spotlight on anything that may be subconsciously sabotaging our positive vibes.

Don’t worry – we won’t be ‘attracting’ by acknowledging our limiting beliefs but instead we’ll be releasing them from our vibration once and for all.

You want to EFT on those negative thoughts in order to sweep clean your attractor beacon. This is the ONE time you WANT to acknowledge your fears and doubts in order to release them from your creative vibration.

Therefore, identify the negative and hurtful thoughts that cause you pain and use these thoughts to form the set-up phrases with EFT.

Again using the ‘manifest money fast’ example, the set-up phrases that would allow you to use the power of EFT to get in there and rip the limiting beliefs out of your system and replace them with a sense of emotional neutrality might be:

Even though I’m afraid that I don’t have the ability tomanifest enough money fast enough, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.

Reminder phrase: I can’t make enough money fast enough.

Even though I’m afraid that I’ll lose my home if I don’tmanifest the money fast enough, what if I could make peace with what is?

Reminder phrase: I’ll lose my home.

Even though I’m terrified of being enslaved to my financial impotence for the rest of my life, I deeply and completely love and accept myself!

Reminder phrase: I’m a financial failure.

Even though I don’t know how to get enough money fast enough and feel like it’s a futile desire, what if I was capable of accomplishing anything?

Reminder phrase: I don’t know how to make enough money fast enough.

Even though I doubt I will ever have the money I need to live the way I want to, I deeply and completely love, accept, and appreciate myself.

Reminder phrase: This shame and doubt.

When you follow the simple guidelines in Gary Craig’s free EFT manual (and learn the shortcut & LOA method that I use – see Anisa’s demo), you’ll soon begin to experience moments of peace.

The really great news is that you can be releasing your limiting beliefs in less than one hour from now, even if this is the first time you’ve ever heard of EFT!

By expanding your moments of peace, you’re automatically enacting the law of detachment. You cannot feel attached and at peace at the same time. You can, however, feel attached and apathetic or sad at the same time.

Your benchmark is neutrality. If you do not reach a level of ZERO emotion or a state of neutrality, then you’ve not cleared the limiting beliefs completely.

You want to be persistent with conquering your fears, limiting emotions, and doubts using this EFT process until you’ve wiped out all negative emotions. It may take 30 minutes or it may take 30 days but if you want to finally experience a break-through with your manifesting skills then begin using EFT to enact the Law of Detachment, even if it’s just 3 minutes a day.

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Become an enlightened millionaire.

Thursday, October 8th, 2009

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How to become an enlightened millionaire? If we are Pure Potentiality, then we can do anything right?

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 The answer is Yes, but…

Yes, but there’s always a price to pay to whatever we create.

As conscious, intentional creators our work is to accept our unlimitedness. Our first and foremost goal is to fully comprehend that we are Divine, unlimited children of God.

Thus, the heart of your question: If we are unlimited and pure potentiality then anything is possible, correct?

YES!

Anything is possible.

At the core of our being we and the Father (the Divine Creator, the life force that creates worlds, God) are one. We absolutely have the power and the capacity to turn water into wine, grow new limbs and organs, walk on water, and even ‘win the lottery’.

However, remember the story of King Midas? He loved wealth and gold so much that when he was granted one wish, he wished that everything he touched would turn to gold.

Shortly, everything he loved, his wife and children, his servants, his beloved horse, even his clothes were turned to gold, exactly what he said he wanted.

As the fable’s moral depicts, “Be careful what you go asking for.”

When we are truly aligned with the essence of our being (our unlimitedness) we are aligned with integritous, harmonious, life-supporting and benign actions and outcomes.

It is not possible to be in alignment with our pure-potentiality and sell something that no one wants. The two are simply not congruent.

Just like it’s not possible to be in alignment with the nature of our divinity and commit murder. The two are simply not in vibrational harmony.

Think of those who become millionaires in an unethical manner. They manifested their ‘millionaire status’, therefore they must have had a prosperity consciousness. In the end, however, there’s always a price to pay for misaligned actions.

Did you hear about the “millionaire sp^ammers”. Jeremy Jaynes and Jessica DeGroot were making in excess of $900,000.00 a month sending unsolicited email. Not a bad income. However, they were then sentenced to 9 years in prison because of ‘how’ they made their money.

There’s always a cause and an effect. There’s always a price and a profit for every action and decision we make. On the other hand, aligned actions may not always appear to be inspired by a ’sure-thing-idea’. They are, however, inspired from a place of higher consciousness.

Millions of self-made millionaires amassed their fortunes on ideas that everyone else thought were crazy. Do you remember those slimy, crawling, plastic octopi (also known as wacky wall walkers) of the 80’s?

Can you believe that nearly $100 million was made on these silly, sticky, gooey, octopi that our children threw against the wall and our ceilings? In fact, I bet some of us still have the slime trail from where they crawled down our walls!

And, who would have thought that millions and millions of those silicone bracelets (Lance Armstrong’s LiveStrong, the Leukemia Society, etc.) have been sold? If the inventor had asked a fashion expert if it was a million dollar idea, the response would have been, “Are you nuts?”

Even though the pair of million dollar ideas above were not obvious winners, the inventors followed their guidance, took enough aligned action, and the delivery and fulfillment of the ‘ideas’ were congruent and harmonious with the essence of our divine nature; the essence of a higher consciousness.

The formula for an enlightened millionaire in a nutshell.

  1. Align your beliefs with the essence of your pure potentiality.
  2. Ask for, listen to, and actively follow Divine Guidance.
  3. Take consistent, enlightened, faithful, and bold actions.
  4. Be willing to fail (because you cannot) and be willing to begin again (because you are never really beginning again).
  5. Be grateful for every step of the way, all the while maintaining your absolute faith and certainty in the obtainment of your dream.
  6. Start over with number 1 above every day!

In the pursuit of enlightened wealth, the path is the purpose more than the destination.

And, as unlimited beings Divine Wealth is our Birthright!

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