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Look out for the “Signs of Land!”

Wednesday, November 4th, 2009

Florence Scovel Shinn said it best when she explained how important it is to “Watch out for the signs of land!” – see The Wisdom of Florence Scovel Shinn for more information, or read below to discover how we are using her wisdom in our lives today. Applying the laws of creative thought to attracting spiritual love.

 

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I went out on a date recently with a guy that I knew wasn’t the one – but I said “yes” anyway thinking we could have some fun. Actually, I went out with him three times. However, there are definite things about this man that I am not attracted to. I want to get married and have a family. I don’t want to waste my time with someone that I know isn’t the one – but I also want to enjoy my life in the process. I feel guilty for seeing him and then I feel guilty for telling him that I don’t want to see him. I am also frustrated that what I want seems so far away – that sometimes I just say “yes” to keep from being alone. I don’t want to be insensitive and rigid but then I don’t want to be alone either. I’m frustrated and want some answers – or better yet – I want my true soul mate!

 

 

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Maybe the real question here is —- Is this co-dependence, the plight of a perfectionist dreamer or are you just human? The answer may be to take a look at all three. First, let’s look at guilt, because when it comes to soaring – guilt is like molasses on your wings – it’ll keep you from flying until you let it go! A friend of mine once said to me, “guilt is optional.” I’ve never forgotten that statement. While there has been a rare occasion where I assess my actions to discover that the option of guilt is justified – I have generally set myself free from the purgatory that habitual, co-dependent type guilt has caused in my past. I simply ask myself – did I make this decision in alignment with my higher values? If the answer is “yes” – then my intentions are to be honest and loving and I do not choose the option of guilt. I pray: “Divine Peace is now established within the hearts of everyone involved and I am grateful that God is at work in this situation, now. I release this in love and I let it go.”

We are not responsible for the feelings or reactions of others, we are only responsible for how we choose to feel and react to others. Second, since time is important to you – let’s not waste any by trying too hard to understand the problem. Instead – let’s focus on solutions and on attracting what you really want. As a creative life coach, that’s my job – to remind my clients that you will NEVER attract what you ideally desire with your attention on “what you don’t want.”

It can be useful to glance at the problem – simply to gain enough insight to derive more of what you are wanting but only long enough to make new decisions and launch new desires. We are radiant beings that draw into our lives – the very things and effects we put our attention upon.

Therefore, if you are a magnet, do you want to magnetize steel or iron fillings? Stephen Covey in 7 Habits of Highly Effective People says “Begin with the end in mind.” This is an important aspect of intentional attraction because the creative mechanism is Teleological. What’s that? Teleology is the study of final causes – especially as it relates to the circumstances and events leading up to the final event. This science indicates that every thing happens not in isolation of each other but were actually caused by the final event. I’m sharing this with you to make a point – every date, every stare, every conversation, every interaction with a potential mate is an opportunity for you to more vividly recognize and determine what you ideally want. Then from this state of increased awareness influence the final event (the right one) to ensure that you are indeed attracting exactly what you desire and nothing less. I have experienced more breakthroughs and seen more personal growth in my clients from this ONE tip – and that is — to joyously appreciate all “the signs of land” along the way. I use this in my workshops frequently.

In Florence Scovel Shinn’s, The Wisdom of Florence Scovel Shinn, she conveys the importance of looking for the “signs of land.” When Christopher Columbus’ crew cried mutiny – he was rescued from the plank by the seagull that sailed over head and by the twigs and timber that floated under toe because if there are birds and plant life – then they must be close to land. Therefore, if you can truly appreciate every interaction as a “sign of land” then you will keep sailing and eventually hit the homeland. The other option is to look at a date, get frustrated that he’s not the one and then jump ship – when just through the fog awaits your ideal mate on the beach with a coconut “frou-frou”- drink in his hand and a smile on his face. The “one” may not be the first, second, third or even tenth rock you hit but if you appreciate the experience then you will continue moving forward instead of backwards. If you don’t appreciate this sign of land as an opportunity then you’ve just aborted the vision by being focused on the negative – instead of the positive. For example, if you get a date with a guy that’s as boring as a boulder and complain, “this isn’t what I want! I’m not attracted to this one at all.” Then in essence you turn your ship around and lose every opportunity to discover – what is it I like about this one? What is it I don’t like – and what is the opposite that I now know I want? What about me might have attracted these qualities in him? What thoughts do I have that may be limiting and be attracting limiting qualities in a mate? And, what do I need to improve in my personality to become more of what I want in a mate and therefore be in harmony with what I want?

Remember – where there are signs of land – there must be land! Stay focused on your desires, be true to your heart and values, be grateful for all your interactions, make decisions that bring you Peace, Joy and greater Vitality and you will absolutely hit your homeland. After all, the soul mate that you desire – desires you!

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Quick – LOA – Audio Answers

Wednesday, November 4th, 2009

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I need a plan! I work better when I can sit down and know what to do and when to do it. Do you have a Law of Attraction plan?
Hi Anisa, I have delved into the study of Manifestation, the law of attraction and the law of intention after college here in PA. And I’m looking to bring it all together with a day to day plan I can implement for the rest of my life. I am a person who needs a day to day planner, to sit, relax and manifest/meditate and then get out of the way of myself and let my life unfold as I have no doubt it will. – Alan from Erie, PA.
  
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Dear Alan,

Here’s my personal breakdown:

•  Meditate every day!

•  Write your top 6 goals for life every day.

•  EFT for three minutes a day.

•  Select one goal and journal your masterpiece daily.

•  And for optimal conscious creation – Rain Dance daily.

  

Question: I’m a widow, and I was left with nothing but problems. How do I manifest something better?
Hi Anisa, I am writing to you because my husband had a heart attack last Thursday and died, Sunday, August 26th, 2007. A lot of things happened to me that were not good. I really need help to attract better things into my life. My husband could not work because of alcohol and could not help me. I want better situations to come into my life. He did not leave me anything but problems with his family etc. Could you please give me some guidance or suggestions? Thanks, -B.
Dearest B.,

Our hearts go out to you and we send you love and healing light during this time of challenge. Please know that you were born for greatness and that this too shall pass.

 

Question: How do I not attract narcissistic people?

I’d like to know about how to not attract people in my life that are extremely narcissistic, I’d like to use EFT with that but I would not know where to start. I have two siblings that are extremely narcissistic and since I have attracted narcissistic relationships. I need to stop that and not be attracted to that. – Kathy

Dear Kathy,

Remember that whatever we put our attention upon expands, so first you’ll want to fully accept, love, and appreciate what has been so that the feeling of love (as opposed to repulsion) is what you begin to project. Start with a list of all the things you DON’T like about narcissistic people, then use EFT to get rid of each and every emotion surrounding this list.

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Question: I’m panicked about debt! How do I use the Law of Attraction to manifest prosperity?

Hello Anisa,

I stumbled upon your site while looking for ways to manifest prosperity. Something I would have never thought of if not for a friend who sent me to the enlightened being website. I began searching the net and found your site.

I’m currently part time and I was in college but quit after I found out it wasn’t what I wanted to do. I have about $20,000.00 in debt and 960 $ on my credit card.

I’m panicking because I really don’t know how I’m going to pay it all off!!!

I’m tired of having money problems. I would just love to finally be able to enjoy my life and not worry about being broke. What would you recommend I do to manifest wealth and prosperity?

Thank you, Melanie

Dear Melanie,

It’s really hard to manifest ‘getting out of debt’ when ‘debt’ is what is so clearly on our mind, isn’t it!?! First surrender to what is, then clear your limiting beliefs, then begin focusing on what you want instead. And, most importantly – follow your guidance, you will have to take divine inspired action courageously and boldly if you are to truly ‘manifest’ what you want.

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Also, be sure to visit www.ManifestingProsperity.com for more information on how to use the law of attraction to manifest prosperity.

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Honor the sacred in every moment and resonate with the power

Tuesday, November 3rd, 2009

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Typing fervently in a dimly corner of the Soup ‘n Salad bar buffet restaurant, I ponder my topic for the day – honoring the sacred of every moment and I ask myself, what is sacred about cream of mushroom soup?   I smirk at the thought that anyone around me may be contemplating the same question.  I recall once reading a recipe in the original Moosewood cookbook for a cream of mushroom soup.  From what I remember, it had three types of mushrooms: Shitake, Portabella and that special variety so easily found in all supermarkets covered with specks of sand in the styro-foam container, whose name is ironically -mushroom.  

I remember that the author, Mollie Katzen, wrote in the preface to the recipe that her favorite comment about this soup was that it was like ” sipping the essence of mushrooms .”

That is it – honoring the sacred is like sipping the essence of mushrooms in every day living.  Honoring the sacred is sipping the essence of life in every moment.   When we sip the essence of what the moment has to offer, we bypass the mental, material, physical – third dimensional bologna (that’s a technical term) that influences our interpretation of the moment and instead land at the heart of the experience.  The heart of every experience, without exception, is the opportunity to learn, to grow, to love, to heal, to appreciate and to express our Divine nature.

Of course taking advantage of the opportunity is another enigma in and of itself.  However, my objective with this article is to focus on how seeing the sacred essence of every moment will equip us with the awareness required to more fully realize our fullest potential as human beings.  The first step towards conscious change is awareness.  Once we have a visual on the issue at hand we can then consciously maneuver and make the appropriate decisions that will support and uplift us to the exalted space of satisfaction that we all desire.

In the past the word sacred meant not singing at the dinner table because God might not approve, or not skipping through the church halls because it would be disrespectful to the Great One that should be feared, as this was His sacred place.  Sacred observation has nothing to do with being God-fearing but everything to do with being fully baptized in the appreciation of life.

So, what’s the payoff?  What do I get if I walk around appreciating everything in life?   What do I get for seeing the sacred in the bumblebee that’s chasing my three-year-old son? Or in the yapping dog next door or in the beautiful blue-haired boob in the blue Buick that cuts me off and drives 20 mph on the freeway on ramp?  If I am going to be a Pollyanna – I want to know what I’m going to get out of it.

I am no different than most when it comes to wanting instant gratification even in my pursuit of enlightenment.  Yes, I want enlightenment but I’d be lying if I said I was ever going to be willing to walk around in a bed-sheet to get it. Yes, what I want is to overcome the ego-driven pursuit of Earthly possessions and my deepest desire is to have Peace on Earth, good will towards all men/women and to live my life completely saturated with the love of God and my fellow human.

This is all true – that’s what I want – and that is sacred, but I also want – what else I want!  I want nice things, a nice place to live, a beautiful, loving relationship, travel, adventure, fun, respect, success and prosperity and these are sacred too! I believe there is nothing unspiritual about wanting to “suck the marrow out of life” and as long as my desires are in alignment with my ultimate values and reason for being – then each desire at its core has the potential for atonement and spiritual enlightenment – and therefore is sacred.

How then does honoring the sacred in every day living benefit me while also benefiting my ultimate spiritual desires?   What’s the purpose and will it help me get more of what I want out of life?

The payoff to seeing the sacred is that we get to resonate with the essence of spirit, the essence of gratitude, the essence of the Divine and thereby reap the rewards of what that vibration can and must do for us.  The rewards are that we get to be more attractive, we get to be happier, healthier, more successful and more prosperous – just by honoring the sacred in the moment.  Why?  Because it is absolutely impossible to honor the sacred and to be in harmony with anything less than your truest desires in that moment.  What a deal – we get to be happier in the moment, more at peace with life while also being completely in-tune with that new car we have been dreaming about and that sexy specimen of the opposite sex that we’ve been fancying – or something or someone better.

Honoring the sacred is a simple exercise in looking past the mushrooms in the soup, looking past the fat in the cream and seeing and experiencing the essence of what the soup and the moment is and has to offer.  Honoring the sacred means we ask – in every moment  – what is sacred about this moment?  What is sacred about this experience?  What is sacred about my life today?

At the essence of everything and everyone is the experience of love, the experience of beauty and the essence of the Divine.  When we choose to see that – we are choosing to raise our level of consciousness, raise our vibration and be in harmony with our life’s purpose and ALL that we ultimately desire that is in harmony with our highest good.  Thus we are in harmony with the energy that creates worlds AND fulfills our dreams.

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The Rehearsal that Makes a Lifetime Difference

Tuesday, November 3rd, 2009

Excerpt from Eldon Taylor

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Within every human being exists a propensity for greatness. The gifts may vary, and the greatness may live out in a vast array of alternatives-say from carpentry to rocket science-but the gift that gives one true self-respect, lifts the spirit from “same old, same old,” resides within. It is our ability to do our very best with our talents in every thing we do. This potential resides within each one of us-but if so, then why is it so often denied?

Every individual essentially has a self-representation that is rehearsed and eventually actualized. The process begins by fantasizing at a very early age. We fantasize a script, perhaps one of those from some Hollywood production. We begin rehearsing it, and we either abandon it to take up a new one or practice it until we role-play that script as who we are. Practicing the script sooner or later automates the behavior. Our imprinting environment plays a significant role in the alternative scripts available to us. If the parents are uncaring and abusive, so are the children, and so forth. If warmth and friendliness lead to embarrassment, then cold and aloof compensate. If honesty gets us into trouble, then deception becomes a defense strategy, and so forth.

It is much more complicated than expressed here, but simply, it is also just this way. In fact, every one of us divides ourselves among four essential views of ourselves. These four faces include the following:

Our actual self. Our ideal self. Our ought-to-be self. Our desired self.

These categories were originally developed by P. A. D. Singer to show how the different selves conflict with each other. I will use it differently.

Most of us are aware of a so-called actual self. This is the self that has failed in ways we often will not share with others. This is the private self. This self holds the thoughts we wish we did not have, the acts we wish we had not done, our beliefs about our worth, our attractiveness, and so forth. It is the self of our secrets and our ambitions. It is the self that most try to change in some way or another at some time in their life-perhaps even perpetually.

The actual self pales by comparison to our ideal self. The ideal self is often a construct built by our culture. This self would live a perfect life-without error and therefore without room for growth.

Then there is our “ought-to-be self.” This is the self full of all our learned “shoulds” and “oughts.” This self differs from our ideal self in the sense that many of the oughts are not ours-they are the oughts of our culture, our society-but deep down inside they are not ours. Sometimes these oughts are the result of rules that make little or no sense to us; sometimes the oughts are of codependent negotiations such as those implied when Mom said things like, “If you loved me, you would not behave that way,” or “If you loved me, you would do what I said,” and so forth. Still, even when one recognizes the source and the nature of the ought relationship from which the oughts themselves arise, they often persist.

Finally, there is the desired self. Somewhere among all of our other selves is a self that we believe we could be. This is the self we long for, especially when we are young and planning our future. It is also the source of much discontent in our later life if the desires have not been fulfilled-and they rarely, if ever, are.

The ought-to-be self, desired self, and ideal self share certain commonalities, but they also differ remarkably.
There is psychic tension among them and in their totality, substantial tension between them and our so-called actual self.

Now, there’s one more thing I wish to add before continuing. The actual self is seldom the true actual self. The actual self is the self of self-perception and therefore is complete with every believed limitation that accompanies one’s private self-perception together with every defense adjustment our mechanisms have created to protect our self image or ego.

Okay, all of this is accomplished while we are still very young. In time we gain the wisdom and insight to become familiar with this maturation process and a myriad of other operations that function in our culture, our homes, etc. to produce socially acceptable membership and behavior. Using one of Shakespeare’s metaphors, life is a stage where we play our various parts, perhaps it’s time for a new rehearsal. Indeed, change, improvement, true self- actualization and so forth, all require that we create a new character. Using our power of imagination and consciously choosing the role playing model we will rehearse, will greatly assist and facilitate any change.

Therefore, it literally behooves all of us to watch those conversation exchanges that take place in our head as well as every other aspect of our “rehearsing” behavior. To experience our best we must practice/rehearse our best at all levels of our being. It works-but it can also be much easier said than done. Still, life’s cornucopia of joy awaits those willing to make the effort.

Eldon Taylor

Eldon Taylor has made a lifelong study of the human mind and
has earned doctoral degrees in clinical psychology and
pastoral psychology. He is the CEO of Progressive Awareness
Research, an organization dedicated to researching
techniques for accessing the immense powers of the mind. He
is a Fellow in the American Psychotherapy Association and is
the author of over 300 books, audio and video programs. To
contact Eldon in response to the story, you can reach him
via his website: www.innertalk.com. To get a copy of his new
book Choices and Illusions, go to:
http://progressiveawarenesspromotions.com/hayhousepromo/022608/index.html

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VERY quick Manifesting Questions and Answers

Tuesday, November 3rd, 2009

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1. How can I give away what I don’t have so that I can get more of it, if I don’t have any to begin with?

2. What if I’m old and have health issues, can I find a mate?

3. How do I know the differences between the signs of land that are Divine and those that are Ego centered?

4. What do you sense in your spirit for me to do? How do I manifest my heart’s desires?

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Q: I have read your article about the signs of land and projections and it’s not very clear. Please explain how can we be sure that it’s our Divine soul who is sending us signs and not our ego? – Maria, Bucharest, Romania 

A:
Higher Consciousness ALWAYS feels aligned and at peace while ego and lower level consciousness feels judgmental, disappointed, edgy, unsure, and hesitant.

However, when we judge the signs of land as ‘insignificant’ or ‘less than what we want’ they may be Divinely Ordered but our EGO gets in the way by saying, ‘this isn’t what I wanted?!’ It’s this judgment that suffocates the potentiality, rendering what might have been wilted, fragmented or dying on the vine.

EVERYTHING is a sign of land representing what we’re attracting at any given moment. Ego and our Divine Soul are always intermingling according to our current level of consciousness. Therefore, the question isn’t to ask is it Ego or Divine, but to ask how I could respond to this moment in order to navigate to the destination of my conscious choice. When we respond with gratitude, we align with the Higher Divine Soul. When we respond with doubt and criticism, it’s Ego.

Q: “But what if I’m 72 and I have health issues and that keeps me from manifesting a love relationship?”

A:

My grandfather married his 5th wife at age 93 because he still believes he’s ‘all-that-and-then-some!’ It’s all in our belief system. If you recognize you have beliefs that prevent YOU from loving yourself, then use Emotional Freedom Technique to first get rid of the self-punishment and self-hate. What will be left is the joyous love of your own true self… And, THAT is vibrationally powerful and attractive to a mate that would jump tall buildings to be with you!

To use EFT, you might try ….
– ‘Even though I have this health issue (be specific) and no one is going to want an old, sick woman… I don’t care – I LOVE myself anyway. And, what if I did find my ideal mate who is CRAZY about me?!’

–Even though I’m really afraid that I’m too old for love, I deeply and completely love and accept myself. And, what if I claimed my right to the best romance and love of my life? What if I allowed the unlimited power of my divine self to shine on me now – illuminating my heart and magnetizing the best relationship of my life?!’

Q: What do you sense in your spirit for me to do? How can I manifest my heart’s desires?

A:

When we ask others what they ’see’ for us it’s because we don’t trust that we can ’see’ for ourselves, or that what we see is trustworthy. However, since our souls are forever connected – what my soul accesses your soul can access. Thus, in order to manifest your heart’s desires, you must first tune-into your heart. Practice meditating with your heart and the love of love as the center of your meditation. You will find the answers there. I know this sounds quaint and silly, but if the answers you are searching for were ‘out here’, you’d have already found them!

In the book, The HeartMath Solution, by Doc Childre and Howard Martin, you’ll find marvelous exercises for accessing and expanding your connection to your spirit, your own sense of intuition, and very importantly – your heart’s desires through the love of yourself!

Q: I have a question regarding The Law of Reciprocity as discussed in “Conscious Creation 101, Module 4″.
In the module you mention the following:

“One tip about this law: The Law of Reciprocity cannot be positively harnessed from a place of “I want this, so I’m going to give ‘this amount’, in order to get.” This intention sets forth a vibration of self-centered, egocentric, giving that neither benefits the receiver nor the giver.”

However in the Fieldwork section you basically want us to do what you just said we must not do?, i.e.:
1) Write down the answer to: “What three things do I want more of in my life?”
2) Now, decide how you will give these three things away.

This process confuses me and has been bugging me for a very long time.
Also, when you don’t have something and you desire that which you don’t have, how can you give it away?

Thanks for your time and I have already learned a lot from the first couple of modules. – Nico (Centurion, South Africa)

A:
Great question, thanks Nico. Let me clarify as I can see why that’s confusing! It’s really important to understand that our most dominant vibration is what attracts or repels the very things that we want in life. Thus, if we give $10 dollars away because we ‘desperately’ need $100, then the vibration of desperation will prevent the Universe from responding generously to our toxic-generosity.

However, I dare anyone that is ‘broke’ to see what happens when you give money away – not because you WANT money back but because you WANT to help others experience a little prosperity and because you WANT to show your higher self that you KNOW where your real source and supply comes from.

There’s a story of a priest and a nun that were driving to a special function where they were expected to feed a crowd of hungry villagers. They didn’t have enough money. The nun said, “But father, we only have $13.00?! How will we decide who to feed?” The priest took the coin-purse and threw it out the window. He said, “It’s not up to us to decide. Let’s put our faith in our Father above – let HIM decide who to feed and how.”
They arrive at the village and within minutes, a stranger approaches and hands them a key. The key unlocked his supply truck that held an entire shipment of much needed medical supplies and of course, more than enough food to spare and to share.
The priest didn’t throw the money out the window in order to ‘get something in return’. He threw it out the window to remind him of where his faith should be. Our faith is NOT meant to be on the money, or the job, or the lottery, or the relationship, or anything else that is external. No person, place, thing, or condition is EVER our supply. It’s our acknowledgment and understanding of the Divine Mind within that is the source and supply of our good. This source and supply is GOD and it is ever-increasing and always present. Our work is to tap into it from a place of faith and love.

Therefore, the more we give from a place of faith and love, the more we are tuned-in to the ever-increasing supply of the Divine within.

You also ask, when you don’t have something – how can you give it away?

The answer is you find a way to give some of what you do have away from a place of love. Eventually, you will receive more of what you want. When it arrives, and it will, be sure to continue giving some more away in love and gratitude. Like a storehouse that you continue to stock, your vibration will increase with every act of love and generosity. Eventually, your storehouse will be full and you will have helped others in the process.

P.S. My friend Janis (amazingly wonderful creator) uses this all the time – she’ll say, “Ohhh fast, let me throw this out the window.” One time she threw some change out of the window and within a day she had manifested the perfect amount of unexpected income to attend a seminar that she had wanted. “Works like magic” she says!

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How do I protect my goals and be authentic ?

Monday, November 2nd, 2009

 

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During the last teleclass someone asked about family and friends who don’t understand or don’t seem that supportive. You said “… to be very careful who we share our dreams with – we are delicate. It is important to share what we are doing with supportive people” I think I could use some clarity on this. I’m trying to connect with people and grow closer. Also, I also am learning how to remain peaceful internally even when there is disagreement or negativity externally. I am learning how to not ‘hide’ who I am just because others don’t understand – I guess authentic to what matters to me, so that I attract other like-minded people (this is really important to me right now). In connection with that, I am wanting to meet a partner with a like spirit/mind, if I don’t open up about these things, how will I know who does and doesn’t have a like spirit/mind? Sometimes I think that if I hadn’t opened up, the other person wouldn’t have either. – Jessica

 

 

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It is indicative of personal growth to get to the place where we want to be authentic in every situation. Within this intention, is the challenge of maintaining our level of peace, no matter what others say or feel about our dreams, beliefs, or goals.

Two goals of any conscious creator and seeker of enlightenment are to achieve equanimity and to be authentic, simultaneously.

Equanimity is defined as having a calm temperament, or an evenness of temper even under stress.

Being authentic can be defined as unquestionable congruent living; the moment to moment alignment of your sincere thoughts, values, emotions and actions.

Think of being authentic as being true to your inner most inspiration and intuitive truths; Following your heart, without conformity to the norm, while pursuing a significant life filled with purpose.

“Instead of spending our lives trying to satisfy our deficiency needs, we can become more self-actualizing by creating and pursuing meaningful life-purposes. We are self-actualizing if we pursue meanings and values beyond ourselves and our families. We transcend our earlier concern for what other people think and focus instead on being the persons we choose to be. In short, we grow away from conformity toward autonomy.” -   Abraham Maslow (1908-1970) American psychologist

The reason many personal growth and development teachers suggest not sharing our goals with others who may not be supportive, is because we may be vulnerable to doubt, fear, and the criticism of those around us.

As law of attraction students, we know what doubt and fear can do to our vibration!?!? We know what criticism and those ‘realists’ do to our self-esteem and our ability to believe in ourselves!?!? And, it’s not pretty!

My niece is a senior in high school. She is in the top 10% of a 5A school in Houston in all honors classes. She’s ‘authentically’ a straight-A student and the only non A, was a C she received in ART. I saw the project that earned her the C for the six-weeks – it was a picture of a paper bag. She was told to ‘draw a paper bag’ and I thought it was awesome. I have NO idea, why the art teacher gave her a bad grade. It looked exactly like a paper bag to me!!!

Now, when you ask my niece to ‘draw’ something, she freezes up! She can’t do it. She says, “I can’t draw. I have no artistic talent whatsoever!”

That ONE teacher and her ‘you are NO artist’ grades instilled in my niece a belief that no matter how much she may want to be an artist, she simply doesn’t possess the ‘artist’ gene.

We are vulnerable to the opinions of others and one comment can push us into a space of not believing in ourselves.

Therefore, we want to protect and shelter our harmonious thoughts and vibrations, in order to continue to attract what we want into your life.

However.. Here’s the authentic Truth and catch to everything I’ve said above.

When we want to use the Law of Attraction to intentionally attract a relationship, for example, then being authentic is essential to discerning between when you’ve attracted the ‘one’ or just another one.

Ideally, the ‘ONE’ will get turned on, heated-up and excited about you being you! He/She will be supportive and honoring, even when they don’t fully comprehend what you want or what your beliefs may be.

If it’s just another ‘one’, then they will project back onto you, from what to them is ‘normal’ and acceptable in society. In the latter situation, allowing you to be authentic may be a challenge for them and they may be incapable of being supportive of your dreams and ambitions.

When we want to have the relationship of our dreams, we want that relationship to be honoring of our true-self, our authentic self. So, yes, by all means, test your Truths on the ’signs of land’ that come your way.

And, set forth several intentions, so that you do not pollute your positive vibes or your self-confidence:

1 – Do not take anything personally. (Read Don Miguel Ruiz’s The Four Agreements.)

Instead: I choose to accept only positive feedback into my life. All other comments, roll like water off a duck’s back!

2 – Do not blame another or judge another for being who they are. If they project their fears and doubts onto you, remember it’s their stuff – leave it with them.

Instead: I choose to accept people for who they are and where they are in their own personal path. I choose to allow others to have their opinions and I am willing to peacefully agree to disagree. I maintain my confidence and belief in myself, regardless of their opinions.

3 – Do not seek approval or validation to ‘justify’ your own worthiness or ability to ‘create’ success. No co-dependence allowed.

Instead: I choose to be inter-dependent and free from co-dependence. I am free to ask for what I want while being willing to be the primary provider of my own needs. I acknowledge that the only thoughts that matter are how I feel about myself. I choose absolute peace, joy, freedom, and confidence in me!

When our beliefs conflict with those we associate with, we have a choice. We can engage in the effort to convince them that our beliefs are the ‘right’ beliefs, we can acquiesce while internally disagreeing, or we can maintain our authentic knowing while agreeing to disagree.

When we want to attract a mate that really “gets us”, then being authentic must be a top priority.

Additionally, being willing to simultaneously pull back when you feel their doubts interfering with your confidence can allow you to protect your vibration. Thus, maintaining a harmonious connection to what you want to attract at the same time as being authentic.

It’s a delicate balance.. but very much, worth the forethought and effort!

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Isn’t Daydreaming Just an Escape From Reality?!

Friday, October 30th, 2009

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Dear Anisa,
My name is Germana and I’m from Italy, my question is about day-dreaming: Can it be dangerous? Can it be an escape from reality? I have a daydream about the situation I live not because I know I can change things using visualization, but because I think that things will never change and dreaming is the only way to get happiness. Example: I always imagine (since I was a little girl) I’m a wonderful amazing woman living the life I love, but nothing changes. Maybe because while I imagine myself like a beautiful woman, on the same time I’m telling to myself: “you are not beautiful”?
Thank you for you answer, Germana

 

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Daydreaming is NOT dangerous but a reality-check can be!

When we squash our own dreams by coming back to reality and reminding ourselves that we’ll never be that beautiful person that we just dreamed of, that we’ll never actually change our situation, we destroy the daydream that the glorious Universal Mind was just coordinating for us.

Daydreaming is like planning a party! You write the guest list, the activities and games that you’ll play, the food you are going to serve, the music that you’ll play, the friends that will attend, the laughter that you will share, the outfit that you’ll wear and you send the invitations and start to get ready.

Then when your party day is almost here you come back to reality and cancel the whole thing by saying, “Oh, I can’t have this. My life will never change.”

POOF – you get what you ask for – no party – the entire order for fun is revoked!

Do you see what just happened? The angels were just dancing around planning your party, having a ball, coordinating the most fabulous, fun party ever and POOF you canceled it.

Allow yourself to daydream and then when you come back to reality, refuse to engage in the dream poisoning thoughts that you can’t have a glorious life!

You were born an unlimited child of God meant to have all of your dreams come true. The only reason and I do mean the only reason, that we do not have all the things we dream about is because we are afraid to accept the truth – that we are unlimited.

What would happen if you accepted your Divine Right to unlimited joy, beauty, health, peace, love and prosperity?

You’d actually get it. Then, what would happen?

For many, there’s a pay-off to not being this gloriously happy and successful and therefore, they cannot release the fear that keeps it away.

For example, see if any of the following triggers any emotions:

” If I’m successful, I have to give up my story of struggle. Then who would I be?

” If I’m beautiful, then I’d get attention that I don’t really want or wouldn’t know how to handle.

” If I’m thin, then I’d be less free and have to do certain things and be a certain way to fit in and I don’t want to do that.

” If I’m successful, then I’ll lose the love of my friends and family because they would feel inferior.

” If I’m prosperous, then people will want things from me and I’ll have to protect myself.

” If I go for my dreams and achieve them, then people will expect me to be a certain way all the time and that’s too much pressure.

” If I find love, then I’ll have to give up on my secrets, my privacy, and the way I am.

The first order of business in applying the law of attraction is to accept the Truth of our being: We are pure potentiality and therefore it is our Divine Birthright to experience the presence of God, right now, right where we are.

Therefore, there’s no need to compromise on what we want.

We can have both prosperity and the love of family and friends.

We can have both love and the freedom to be who we want to be.

We can have both success and safety.

We do not have to earn our right to joy and prosperity – we were born worthy and deserving; we were born unlimited, precious, admirable, beautiful, and it is our divine destiny to accept this.

By accepting this first Truth, we pull into our feeling nature the very essence of Spirit, the substance of Spirit – this substance is the Presence of God.

By allowing the Presence of God to be right here, right now, we automatically align with everything we desire and our daydreams can become our reality.

Therefore, it’s not dangerous to daydream. It’s dangerous to NOT daydream. Yes, it is an escape from reality but that’s what conscious creators do.

We choose our next adventure, our next engagement, our next smile, our next delight by intentionally daydreaming it into reality.

Congratulations on being a daydreamer. Now, get out of the way and believe in your Divine Right to have those dreams!

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Chemicalization Happens!

Friday, October 30th, 2009

What do the Law of Attraction, magnetars,
and black-holes have to do with it?

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When a student read the Chemicalization Warning in my Attract a Mate with EFT & LOA eCourse she emailed me, “Anisa – I have to tell you that I’m completed shocked and appalled at what I just read. You make it sound so frightening that I don’t know if I even want to pursue intentional attraction!”

My response is that I’d change chemicalization if I could. However, until I figure out how NOT to go through chemicalization myself, the best I can do is figure out how to ride the current with greater ease.

In my experience, EFT combined with LOA can take a slow moving turtle of a desire and fast-track it into the winning horse of rapid materialization. However, there are times when this means going through the challenging process of chemicalization.

Chemicalization can be summed up in the phrase: Things sometimes have to get worse before they can get better.

This, of course, is simply a propagated belief and does not have to be your experience. However, there are times when what you say you want and what you are willing to do without prodding are two completely different things.

Likewise there will be times when our conscious beliefs and actions do not match our unconscious beliefs. This is known as cognitive dissonance and it’s often a root cause of disruptive chemicalization.

Chemicalization is the process of transformation.

A werewolf endures the process of extreme transformation before it returns to human form.

Sand must be exposed to extreme heat to transform into molten glass.

A person might have to leave or be fired from their current job, if they are to obtain the new, fabulous job of their dreams.

Occasionally, a person might leave or lose their current relationship, if they are to create a different relationship, even if it’s to be within the one they are presently engaged.

Did you ever see the movie, Regarding Henry, starring Harrison Ford and Annette Bening? Henry (Harrison’s character) was a ruthless, philandering, unethical high-paid attorney who didn’t even know his own daughter. Then, he was a bystander victim of an armed robbery; survived a gunshot wound only to awake with amnesia. Through the painful process of remembering who he was, he came out the other side as an upright, integritous, giving man, loving husband and caring father.

Bluntly stated – this is chemicalization:

“It seems as though everything begins to go wrong at once. This may be
disconcerting, but it is really a good sign. Suppose your whole world seems to rock on its foundation. Hold on steadily, and let it rock, and when the rocking is over, the picture will have reassembled itself into something much nearer to your heart’s desire.” – Emmet Fox, author of The Golden Key

With every change, no matter how great or how small, some degree of chemical transformation occurs.

It is our resistance to this change that causes our negative spiral. Imagine for a moment that your dreams and desires were creatively launched in good will. You’ve worked diligently, passionately, and joyously at maintaining a positive outlook; you’ve resounded an unwavering faith and embraced the essence of your being as indeed unlimited; you feel certain about your positive future and you’ve maintained your connection to source even though circumstances around you have been anything but peaceful.

And then, it happens.

Like the magnetic swirl of a black-hole, you find your entire world being sucked into an upside-down, inside-out funnel of crazy mishaps, boat-rocking events, communication breakdowns, energetic surges, and cognitive dissonance. You wonder, “what in the world is going on?!”

This is when we want to Stop Wondering and Start Creating!

Abraham (through Jerry and Esther Hicks) would say,
“Anyone can feel good under good conditions, but that’s not really
practicing deliberate creation. That’s just regurgitation. That’s
just looking at a feather nest, and feeling glad that your nest is
feathered. It’s not about creation. It’s just about responding to the
conditions. It’s just about offering a vibration in response to what
you’re seeing. But when you are able to offer a vibration that’s different than what
you are seeing, by deliberately making yourself see something
different than what is most dominant before you, that’s when you
become a deliberate creator, and that is the promise you made before
you came into the physical experience.”
- Abraham

There are several contributing factors to the chemicalization process.

First, when you put forth GREAT energy about what you want, expect change to happen. The more bold and vibrationally powerful your intentions, actions, and emotions the more likely you are to experience change.

It goes without saying that sometimes that change may be uncomfortable. Imagine the magnetar. (What? You don’t watch the Discovery channel the way my honey does? Oay, here’s the picture:)

magnetar“This object [magnetar], named SGR 1806-20, is one of only ten unusual neutron stars classified as magnetars, thousands of times more magnetic than ordinary neutron stars and billions of times more magnetic than the most powerful magnets built on Earth. .scientists calculated this star’s magnetic field to be up to 10 times more powerful than previously thought — with a force strong enough to slow a steel locomotive from as far away as the Moon. [However, ] “If this magnetar were as close as the Moon, it would rearrange the molecules in our bodies” -
http://www.gsfc.nasa.gov/topstory/20021030strongestmag.html

We are like the magnetars! We are conscious creators and thus we are dealing with our own magnetic forces. It only makes sense that when we are super-charged and powerfully attractive, we will cause the magnetic field around us to swirl and create the changes we desire.

The second contributing factor, I liken to the black hole I mentioned earlier.

black hole“A word of advice for cocky deep-space travelers: Dodging a black hole is now a little trickier than simply steering clear of the X-ray-hot star material pouring into the abyss. It seems that some black holes actually spin, much like whirlpools, dragging with them the fabric of space and all that dare to venture near.” –

http://solarsystem.nasa.gov/scitech/display.cfm?ST_ID=254

It’s our own attachment and resistance that creates the magnetic whirlpool that sucks us into the pit of the black hole! When we fight the current, the strength that’s required is sometimes simply anagalactic (beyond our personal galaxy of resources).

When you find yourself spinning out of control in the grips of your own magnetar and black-hole creations, stop wondering, stop fighting and proclaim, “This too shall pass” and “Peace Reigns Supreme, Now”.

By choosing to relax into the rapids, instead of fighting the current, you may even find yourself enjoying the ride; laughing at the changes and eventually you’ll land on the other side of the funnel. And, if you found a way to trust in the Divine Order, you’ll now find you have MORE of what you want, not less!

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Expect losers, freaks and geeks – and you won’t be disappointed!

Friday, October 30th, 2009

The law of attraction says that what we think about, we bring about. The primary law of the Universe, applies to our positive thoughts, and our negative thoughts.

 

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I can’t find a decent gal. Every woman I meet is a loser, a freak or a sloth! The last woman I dated was the worst; she was a wolf in sheep’s clothing! It was a close call because I was almost ready to say, “This could be someone I could get into.” Then she stood me up and lied to me. I caught her red- (actually blonde) handed at the grocery store with another guy! If I do meet someone who I might consider dating, then they are too young for me, married, digging for gold or sometimes – gay! Maybe I need to defect?!? What’s up with every woman nowadays being so non-datable?

 

 

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Let me just say, “You are right!!!” Gals YOU are going to meet are going to be exactly as you expect them to be – losers, freaks or sloths! Then you’ll have every right to say, “See, I told you so!” But there is hope! See and feel if any of the following statements mean anything to you.

“Who so diggeth a pit shall fall therein.” –Proverbs, 26:27

“What we think about – we bring about.” -anon

“Beliefs are self-fulfilling prophesies.” -anon

“We create our fate every day… most of the ills we
suffer from are directly traceable to our own behavior.” –Henry Miller

If you want to change what you are attracting then change what you are focused upon. Change what you expect, and change your beliefs about women! Your ability to attract someone who has integrity, for example, is limited to your expectation of such. Believe that there are women out there that in fact meet your criteria and have integrity AND that you can meet one. You will get nothing less than what you focus upon and expect. It’s the law of attraction at work; the universal law of attraction operating easily through the power of your thoughts.

Let’s take a situation like online dating. There are plenty of players, losers, nymphos and con artists waiting for their prey online, and if you are fearful of meeting them, then you will be in perfect harmony (and alignment) with that happening. However, if you look at online dating like a numbers game, and then you say, “Okay, I’m just going to go into this with the intention of meeting lots of women. I may or may not find my ideal partner, but I’m definitely going to have fun. I’m going to say “No thanks,” when someone doesn’t meet my standards and I’m going to say, “Yes, let’s play,” when someone does.”

How do you begin to change what you’re attracting, as well as protect your experience from the losers? First, don’t have a pity party! We (myself included) have a tendency to sensationalize our woes. We like (and sometimes crave) the momentary recognition and connection that we get in the sharing. In other words, we like to talk about our worst experiences. So, we hang out with friends who can sympathize. We begin telling our, “Would you believe what happened to me…?” stories and pretty soon, everyone around is reaching far and wide to come up with a better “NO Way – you’ve got to kidding! That’s terrible!” horror story! What’s worse, if we are in a mood to rant and rave, and a friend says, “You know, that’s just not my experience and I would prefer to talk about something more positive.” We want to call them a Pollyanna or a metaphysical woo-woo-weirdo. Don’t do it! Instead, start hanging out with the friends who refuse to put up with or allow you to be negative!

Second, stop judging. The more you judge others and the more critical you are of others – the more likely you will attract not only women who will be critical of you but who will also give you reasons to criticize. Be willing and totally committed to surrendering to the fact that yes, there are in fact women other there with whom you will not want to be in relationship. AND there are in fact, women who you would definitely want to be in relationship. Stop judging women as either good or bad, right or wrong, and instead accept that you will be completely accepting of every human, simply because they are human. Also speak aloud to yourself the following and do so often, “In perfect timing, I will meet my ideal partner.”

Know that what you are sending out (by your expectations and beliefs) actually invites, magnetizes and even inspires your dates to BE exactly what you expect. Therefore, the third action for you to exercise is to change your expectation! To illustrate my point of how we inspire others to fulfill our expectation of them, I’d like to share a story from The Continuum Concept by Jean Liedloff. Jean describes her experience while living amongst a South American primitive clan of Indians and how what they expect naturally of their children actually occurs (creating a completely opposite view of what children are like, when compared to ours). For example, they expect their children, even infants, to survive, to be self-caring, self-protective and to be safe even amidst the jungle, turbulent rivers, poisonous intruders and razor-sharp weapons. Jean gave the example of how she watched an infant, playing at the edge of an eight-foot deep trench. The infant was barely crawling, could only occasionally manage to pull himself to a sitting position, and played all day within inches of this deadly pit (as she saw it). At times the child was virtually at the edge of the pit, sometimes even sitting with it’s back toward the pit. Not for one instant did the mother, the father or anyone else in the village think this child was in danger. They expected the infant to be safe, and it was. They demonstrated their belief and expectations further by the random placement of their hunting knives and bows which children played with all the time, without getting cut. They also expected their children to be safe along the water’s edge and within the water, and therefore death by drowning did not occur. What they expected was in fact what they experienced. Their expectations actually inspired an innate intelligence within their children to fulfill their families’ expectations.

So, change your belief, and you will protect your experience! Believe that your ideal partner exists, believe and expect to meet him or her in perfect timing and believe that you will be Divinely guided, and you will be!

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When is it okay to try and attract a specific person?

Friday, October 30th, 2009

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When is it okay to try and attract a specific person? I’ve been with this man before, and we’ve never quite gotten together, but he’s available again, and so am I. I’d really like us to get together. Would it not work, or be wrong to try to manifest him into my life?

 

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It’s not that it isn’t “okay” to try and manifest someone specific, or even that it’s wrong; it’s just that if you succeed and there is someone that is a better match to you, you’ll miss out. Additionally, if you set your sights on something or someone specific, then it’s more likely that you’ll get attached to the outcome. Attachment destroys your positive “vibes;” making it impossible to attract easily not only that someone but anyone else also.

 Remember the wise saying, “be careful what you ask for.” Conscious creation is a science, it is applicable in every situation, under every circumstance. If a person sets out to attract a specific person into their life – it is possible to have this manifest, however, once you get the person, what will you do with them? 

 This reminds me of Shel Silverstein’s poem: Recipe for a Hippopotamus Sandwich.

A hippo sandwich is easy to make.

All you do is simply take

One slice of bread,

One slice of cake,

Some mayonnaise,

One onion ring,

One hippopotamus,

One piece of string,

A dash of pepper –

That ought to do it.

And now comes the problem….

Biting into it!

-From Where the Sidewalk Ends by Shel Silverstein

  You CAN manifest what you put your attention upon. However, the Universe always knows the Divine Timing, the Divine Order, and the Divine Manifestation that is truly in alignment with what we really want.    And, what we really want is NEVER just the “physical object” that we think it is! What we really want is always the “feeling” that we think that “physical object” will give us once we get it. 

 When we try really hard to manifest something before it’s time, or something instead of an experience – we will always be disappointed in the results in the end.   To some degree, our humanness prevents us from being capable of seeing the bigger picture, which includes all the pieces of the puzzle.

 When we try really hard to manifest something specific, sometimes we’ll get it – but “it” may NOT include the higher experiences that include ALL that we want, not just SOME of what we want.

 The specific person may NOT be a true match to what you really want, therefore, it would be better to let the Universe do its job. Focus instead on the experience of what you believe this specific person will bring to your life; the love, joy, comfort, security, freedom, fun, etc. that you believe having your ideal relationship, or a relationship with this person would give you. And, if this person is a vibrational match to what you want, and wants this too – you can’t help but manifest them into a relationship.

 For example, after my divorce, and some personal healing, I decided to practice what I preach and try to manifest my ideal mate, again. Since I teach this stuff, it was even more important for me to get it right, lest I be a failure – proof that “those who can – Do, those who can’t – teach.”    (I didn’t want that!)  

So I sat down. Pen and paper in hand, and began listing the characteristics of my ideal mate. On my list, I wrote, “the many qualities that I loved so much in Allen. Including…. (the list was very long).” Allen was my first love. Long story short – we met in college, got engaged, got unengaged, and I married someone else. But, I never stopped loving him. 

 I focused on the qualities that Allen possessed that I wanted in a relationship, and the feelings that I believed my ideal relationship would nurture.    Ultimately, in a strange set of circumstances, Allen came back into my life (even though we were 800 miles apart, and hadn’t spoken in 4 years). Now, I have what I wanted – “a loving, fun, supportive, passionate” relationship with a “family” man, that wants to continue growing, and evolving as lovers, partners, parents, light-workers, and soul mates.  

I NEVER thought, “I want Allen,” and therefore I was never attached to HIM being the only one for me. However, because he was a match to me, and I was a match to him, the Universe moved “Heaven and Earth” to make our ideal match come together.  

If your “specific” dream lover is meant to be, you can’t prevent it from happening. If it’s NOT – then the last thing you want to do, is make it happen anyway.

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